Ep 0115 – Fear of Criticism Get Outta Here!

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Podcast Recap

I ponder criticism’s impact on risk and going for our dreams. Thank you to new BC Char, who posted a 5-star review on USA iTunes. BCs have been asking ‘Where’s Alen?’ Find out from a clip from Alen Standish’s and my third interview.
Welcome to Char and to other new BCs, including Shelly B. and BC X – who shares a wonderful email, but wants to remain anonymous. Comment conversations from day 114 featuring Dawny, Dave, Myself, eM and Mark. Why is it Mark shrugs off our compliments? Dave’s wife, Kathleen, goes on the bravery report for sharing some foolish fun for the first time and Dawny shares a very funny pair of jokes. I practice voice acting by reading you one of my latest blog posts which includes a dialog between myself and one of my pesky inner voices – Tantrum Laurie.
Oak tree forest with sun streaming through the leaves

View from the podcast rock. It’s a pretty day.

Mentioned

Alen Standish’s Progress Not Perfection episode 59 where he talks about his upcoming new project

Day 114 where you can read the comment conversation with eM, Dave, Dawny Mark and me.

The Apple Seed Radio show Dave mentions in his comment

The blog post I read with Tantrum Laurie

My Instagram Account LaurieDreamWeaver look for #FlowerSafari

Ways to support the show financially

Credits

Host: Laurie Weaver
Special Guest: Alen Standish
Laurie’s Foolish Fun Intro Announcer: Mark Weaver
Laurie’s Foolish Funners: Kathleen and Dawny

Main Theme: I’m Letting Go by Josh Woodward from The Simple Life Part 1 Used by permission of Josh Woodward under a Creative Commons License

Sounds used in Laurie’s Foolish Fun Intro

  • Slide Whistle sounds
    http://www.freesound.org/people/plingativator/sounds/188873/
  • Background Tune/Beat
    http://www.freesound.org/people/siakitty/sounds/38478/
  • Girl’s Laughter
    http://www.freesound.org/people/choplin/sounds/109759/
  • Phone Ring
    http://www.freesound.org/people/winsx87/sounds/152028/

Other Sounds

  • Crowd Cheering
    http://www.freesound.org/people/xtrsounder/sounds/202498/
  • Joke Rim Shot
    http://www.freesound.org/people/jmayoff/sounds/256959/
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8 thoughts on “Ep 0115 – Fear of Criticism Get Outta Here!

  1. dawny

    lifes been over the top busy it seems, and some emotional baggage melt-down crap, and just life… the moral of the story, haven’t gotten to the episode yet *sigh* so sad, but soon, i love the episodes.. all of em

    Hope life is treating all the fellow BC’s lovely as ever, and you too my dear laurie..

    we’ve had some rainy yuck amuck, but it appears to be clearing out..

    Im enduring a half marathon this weekend, kind of scarazy due to all my ailments, but ive got this.. wahoo

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    1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post author

      WooHoo! Bravery report material all the way gal! Half Marathon. Wow, those wog abouts seem to pay off. Hugs for the busyness, and no worries, your episodes will be waiting for you when you can get to it. Hey, call or use speakpipe and let us know how it went, I think that would be AWESOME (if you feel like it). Zillions of Hugs and smooches dear Dawny. xoxoxoxoxox

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      1. dawny

        silly laurie.. not sure what speak-pipe is, but i’ll check into giving it a gander.. you seem to be anxious & excited about it so it must be FANTABULOUS, tho I think you mentioned you can get to it, use it, and it’s easier and faster or something?!?!

        I hope the day is bringing you joy, as well all the BC’s…

        it seems the clouds, and rain are passing and we are going from spring to summer in like 0 to 60 seconds, because Sunday it’s anticipating 90 degrees, sure glad the half marathon starts pretty early yikes.. heat stroke, I feel for the peeps doing the FULL marathon, and also running.. at least im a wogger.. phew

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        1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post author

          I sent you an email with a link to download the Speakpipe app.
          and I copied this from the how to send audio page. One way to use Speakpipe is from your iPhone. Download the free app from the Apple app store.

          Once you you have Speakpipe installed, open the Speakpipe app on your iPhone.
          Type “LaurieWeaver” (all one word) as the username.
          Tap “Next”
          If the app asks for permission for SpeakPipe to access the mic, tap OK
          Tap “Start recording”
          Speak into your phone as usual.
          Tap “Stop” once done.
          Tap “Play” to listen or “Reset” if you wish to re-record your message
          Enter your name and email once satisfied.
          Tap “Send”.

          We got your rainy weather today, and looks like we have some more of the same tomorrow. Great for us, due to the drought, but must admit it makes me a bit blue. On the plus side, expecting my sound treatment stuff from UPS tomorrow. It is EXCITING to be moving forward with my recording space. xoxoxoxox

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  2. dawny

    Lovely episode, I finally made it to listening..

    You always give me stuff to think about =-) and I too wanna kick that fear in the caboose, and STOP letting what some-one else ‘says’ or ‘thinks’ or ‘might think’ for that matter effect me and my thinking..

    way to go team us BC’s

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  3. Dave

    Laurie,
    That was a great episode it helped me verbalize the core issue of my compulsive eating issues and well some of my other addictive behaviours, it is the trigger for all my pain.

    This revelation triggered a 2 day binge and I have not cried like that in a long long time and its even hard to keep my eyes dry as I write this. Please don’t regret publishing this episode, I’m going to take this to my therapist and I think it will be a break through moment.

    Welcome Char (Did I get that correct), and Shelly B and BC “X” we are so glad you joined us.

    Char: I agree, listening to Laurie is like listening to a good friend. I also am listening from the beginning. I started at 1 and am now at 80..but I have also listened from 108 to 115.

    BC “X”: If you get the chance and you feel comfortable with it, please share the purpose that keeps you going, the BCs are very supportive. My purposes in life are: Loving and serving my wife Kathleen (Kathy), gardening, cooking, my walk with God, and being a sketch artist (I’m just beginning to learn to draw, but Laurie, through her examples and teachers has taught me to identify ourselves as what we want to be not as what we will become..I hope that is clear)

    Shelly B: I agree it is nice to find a group that we can relate to and share with.

    I know I’m stalling but here it is the Mother of All Alien Robots in my life:

    ….“As you know I used to have issues with compulsive overeating, binge eating and dieting but most of the time I was on the over weight obese side and I got bigger and bigger in my body I realized I was hiding myself more and more underneath that level of fat how weird taking up more space in the world actually meant I had less space for myself, the real me, the part that is inside, but I had this huge fortress around me not only physically but as an excuse, oh I didn’t get that job because I was fat. I don’t even need to go over and ask this person for a date because I’m fat, I don’t need to try for that job because I’m fat, everything in the world I can blame on being fat. If I sit down next to you you have to leave me space. Because I am physically big therefor you have to keep your distance and yet the inside me longs to be seen “Please someone see me, hear me….hear me, see me..look through this wall of fat..look through this mask of funniness, and business, and helpfulness. See me PLEASE PLEASE see me notice me, say I’m ok……

    The MoaAR’s also sent out the following:
    “Your reaction is proof that you are weak, useless and immature, childish and a girly man….you will never be a real man….you will never succeed…you should just give up.

    For two days I battled this b*tch (MoaAR) and the pain….OMG does it hurt…Kathy even tried her best to lift me up, but ended up having to give me space….Until I come to grips with this truth, there is not a lot others can do or say…….maybe……The one dominating feeling that is out there is “Light chases away the darkness, the only problem is that I don’t have the energy to flip the switch.

    I will battle on and with all the support I will win!!!!!!!

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    1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post author

      Sending you BIG HUGS brave robot alien fighter Dave! I am sorry something I pondered about caused you grief, but I’m also SUPER GLAD AND PROUD you are taking that feeling and those thoughts to your therapy. Sometimes the most upsetting moments tend to be, as you said, the breakthrough moments. Don’t worry about my feelings in the matter. Given the topic of my show, and the things I think about and talk about, I know that I may be triggering people, just as *I* have been triggered by comments etc. But it is something I have really worked through for the most part. I am not responsible for other people’s reactions – unless I intentionally try to cause harm, which I don’t on the show. So while I am sorry for your discomfort, I don’t count it on my ledger, if that makes sense. I think you are very brave and are facing up to your own issues with bravery and honor. Therefore, in my very well informed opinion, MoaAR, Dave is very much, a man! xoxoxox

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