Ep 0061 – Letting Go of Self-Imposed Rules and What’s Under Bingeing?

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Podcast Recap

I ponder how we can easily fall prey to self-imposed rules, even when we are trying to practice intuitive eating. New brave companion, Helen, supports another listener and shares some of her own story. Stephanie from Germany asks a compelling question about how trying to stop a binge might make a binge compulsion worse. Cheryl and Sue have an interesting comment conversation about letting go of our food compulsion identities. Shout-outs to Canadian iTunes listeners for a new record, Alen Standish for his help in our last show, and to new Stitcher listeners who’ve added Compulsive Overeating Diary to their playlists.
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Cheryl’s comment about letting go of our food identity on Day 60

Sue’s comment about the importance of finding out who we are on Day 60

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Resource of the day

Are you Creating Boundaries or Self-Imposed Limitations?
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6 thoughts on “Ep 0061 – Letting Go of Self-Imposed Rules and What’s Under Bingeing?

  1. Cheryl

    Hm… Guess I’m going to have to sit down and make a list of unwritten rules. To be honest, I have NO idea what they are. But at the same time I KNOW they’re there because I can feel the SHAME when I break them. How weird is that? So that’s an exercise to work on tomorrow.

    Just wanted to say to Stephanie, I SO do the same thing. I’m hardly ever successful at avoiding what for me would not be “binge eating” episodes so much as simple cravings I get in my head. Like today after visiting an elderly friend I had to pass a Starbucks on the way home; and just like Pavlov’s dog, I started salivating at the thought of a Raspberry Mocha Frappucino and a piece of pumpkin bread. I didn’t stop. I LIED to myself. (No kiddin’!) I told myself since my son was off work today he’d likely volunteer to buy me lunch. He does that often. I think it worked because I really DIDN’T know if he would today or not. (He didn’t, btw.) But I did drive right by Starbucks without stopping. So sometimes that works for me. I’m guess I’m pretty naive and gullible! LOL Well heck! Whatever works…

  2. Stéfanie

    Hey BC’s
    I wish I had time to comment in a lenghty and thourough way – but I lack time with major home improvements going on. So, I’ll be listening and supporting in thoughts (sue, how’s your 10 day challenge?) xxx

    1. Sue

      Hi Stefanie
      Having spent several days thinking I can’t weigh myself because I agreed not to, I have now passed the date without noticing. However, it has been a bad few weeks with the eating so I have no desire to upset myself with the evidence! Timetabling has finished and I am now working for long periods on my own – always a time that I dislike and I am so much more tempted to eat more biscuits than I should. We too are about to have some work done on our house – our kitchen is being replaced and as the floor and walls also need repair we are going to be without a functioning kitchen for the rest of this month! My asthma is playing up and the increased dust will not help. It may well be a blessing that I spend most of the day at work.

      How far did you get with the challenge? It is interesting to see how we react to such things. I must be a rebel at heart as even self-imposed rules/challenges make me more likely to want to do something that undermines it. Previously I had not even thought about it for a day or two.

      1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post author

        Hi Sue, I just wanted to say well done for giving up the scale (totally understand your feelings about not being in a hurry to jump back on too.) I’m still struggling. I’m editing a bonus episode right now of my reaction to Alen’s interview of me that went live today – and at the end of the little bonus episode , I’m STILL moaning about my scale-dependency. Gak! You inspire me to try harder!

    2. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post author

      Hugs Stéfanie, Home renovation is such an energy suck, we totally understand. Also, we can feel your thoughts and love all the way over here! I’ll look forward to hearing your thoughts and reading your words once things settle down for you. xoxoxox 🙂


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